Autumn R asked:
I just got an 11 month old bengal cat, Iro, about a week ago. He still scared but he’s starting to feel comfortable with me, not my husband. He is terrified of him. My husband feeds him and tries to play with him but nothing. He never hissed at him but he did try to swat him. What is the best for him not fear and feel comfortable with my husband? Mind you, he is not neutered. I love this cat, I know he can be a good and just needs time but what can I do to make my cat like my husband and not is scared all the time.
Ella
October 30, 2009
Please someone help my little family! ?
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Well my family member rescues Pasenjis (the dog) and they are always scared and will show affection to one person and in other word what your cat is doing and it just took them time to get used to the people because they could have been treated babley before you got him, i know that sounds stupid but its true!
Comment by mamma bear — November 2, 2009 @ 4:58 am
cats dont swat at people they dont like, they claw.
your husband will be fine, just takes longer. have husband keep feeding him and let the cat see husband being nice to you.
cats ,in the wild, live in prides. domesticated cats see us as leaders of the pride. they protect the pride from outsiders.
yours probably sees you as the leader, but your husband as an outsider. until he figures out that you say husband is ok, cat will fear him.
im guessing this is more your cat, you picked him out, picked him up. cat knows you. doesnt know husband.
just takes time.
Comment by frank s — November 4, 2009 @ 3:40 am
I think he should just spend some more time with the cat and gradually the cat should get used to it and maybe you should neuter him because i think it makes the cat feel more relaxed and i think talking to the cat would help.
Comment by HorseRock — November 7, 2009 @ 10:00 am
The cat is still adapting. He needs to do it in his own time and not be pushed.
Feed your cat canned mackerel instead of canned cat food. I’t’s high in protein with no fillers so it’s worth the price. Or tuna.I mix it with my cat’s dry food for a special treat. My cats LOVE this stuff, so if your husband has a bit of this the cat may be really friendly
towards him.
Other than that let him be. It’s only been a week.
Comment by BeenThereWillShare — November 9, 2009 @ 5:06 am
Hi there,
To have him fixed will calm him down some, if the problem with your husband persist ask your vet about chlomicalm.we rescued a kitten 3 years ago and it took time and it was ok with me but totally hated my husband, I mean it would not even let him in bed at night with out hissing and attacking ( in a very aggressive manner) our vet put him on this medication and it calmed him down so much, the cat is now 3 and we can still tell he has issues now and then, but he is like night and day to what he was..
Comment by Diane M — November 11, 2009 @ 8:37 am
Time and patience are the key. Since the cat is a male and not fixed he sees your husband as his rival. Either fix the cat or if he is for stud service then I would suggest getting the pheromone plug in by Feliway that should help mask the male ego thing. Have your husband continue feeding him as the the best way to a mans’ heart is through food that is true for cats too. Good luck,
Comment by PEELNET — November 12, 2009 @ 5:25 am
I adopted a cat as well around 6 months ago & he only liked me at first.
He was scared to death of everyone else in the home…
I’m the only one that’s ever fed him or taken care of him, but after around 2 months he FINALLY got to the point where he’d just walk up to people and want to be pet!!
I think your cat will come around, it’s a slow process. One thing that may help…try getting some catnip and having your husband rub some on his hands and try to pet the cat. Cats love the smell of catnip.
Comment by cali_candi92 — November 12, 2009 @ 2:46 pm
As much as we’d wish there was “something” we could do to speed up the trust process, there isn’t one. Like everyone else said here - all you can do is be patient. Good luck
Comment by Yikes — November 12, 2009 @ 7:23 pm